We’ve all done it...New Year’s Eve arrives and we faithfully make our resolutions for the new year-so sure that we’ll try harder or do better than last year. So why then, four weeks into the new year, have we already forgotten our resolutions?
Some might say it’s because we don’t have the necessary will-power to accomplish what we set out to do. Some say it’s because we’re too busy or too overwhelmed to take action on our resolution. My guess is it could be any of those things, but it’s more likely that you’ve simply started down a path without your compass and you’ve begun to lose your way.
Instead of rattling off a list of things you “should” do for whatever reason, sit down and think about what it is you really, really want to accomplish and set a solid intention for accomplishing your goal. I also suggest that you focus on only one intention at a time. I once heard a saying; “you can only ride one horse at a time and do it really well”. The same thing is true for making change and improvements in your life.
No matter what it is that you’d like accomplish (ex. lose weight, get a promotion, paint your living room, improve your management skills, etc.) setting an intention can and will set you on a course for success.
With that in mind, a few tips for understanding the value and setting an intention.
Tip 1 Get clear. In setting an intention you are making it clear to yourself and to others exactly what you want or plan to do. Define what your definition of reaching your goal would be. For example, you know you have reached your goal of improving your management skills when you consistently feel more satisfied with your ability to deal with difficult situations and motivate your staff. You may even get that promotion you’ve been after!
Tip 2 Realize that an intention comes in many sizes and every large goal is filled with intentions big and small. With follow through, each intention will ultimately lead to success. For example, if your resolution is to improve your management skills, your first intention may be to speak with your company to find out what skills and traits you may want to focus on. Next, you might want to set intentions for researching and attending suitable training programs, finding a mentor, and researching reading materials.
Tip 3 Don’t let confusion overwhelm your intention. You may have lots of passion about your resolution, but passion without a plan is wasted energy and will eventually fizzle out. Setting an intention to take a step towards your goal everyday will keep you on the right path and help to clear away confusion.
Tip 4 Use your resources. Ask for what you want and need from others. When you clearly state your intention and your request of others (as opposed to expecting them to read your mind) you have the opportunity to gain a partner and a cheering section. For example, if you admire someone’s management style, ask them for tips and possibly support (chances are they’ll be flattered and very willing to share advice).
Tip 5 Be accountable. Choose your resolutions carefully by deciding what really matters to you. You might ask someone you trust to help “hold” your intention for you. However, nothing can take the place of honoring your intentions to yourself. You’ll be amazed at how your self-esteem and sense of accomplishment will increase when you accomplish your goals. Sounds like Bliss to me.
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